Just Sayin’

January 3, 2007 at 8:29 am | Posted in What the hell? | 1 Comment

One of the nice side effects of the holiday season is not paying attention to much of what is going on in the world.  I mean I still scan the newspaper and check out my celebrity blog sites to catch the latest gossip but for the most part I “turn on, tune in, drop out” of the day-to-day news drivel that slaps us in the face.

But then there is this tidbit I happened to miss until visiting an old infertility website:

December 30, 2006MADRID, Spain –A 67-year-old Spanish woman became the world’s oldest mother after she gave birth to twins in the northern city of Barcelona on Saturday, a hospital official said.

The woman, whose identity has not been revealed by Sant Pau hospital, gave birth by caesarian section on Saturday having previously undergone in vitro fertilization in the United States, according to the national news agency EFE.

Originally from the southern region of Andalucia, the new mother chose the Barcelona hospital because it specializes in high-risk births.

The mother and twins are all doing well though the babies are both in incubators, a hospital spokeswoman said. The hospital did not reveal the gender of the twins.

The previous holder of the oldest mother record was 66-year-old Romanian citizen Adriana Iliescu who gave birth to baby Eliza Maria in Jan. 2005

So where do I start….I’ve been involved in conversations relating to reproductive assistance and actually had people tell me that my body not working reproductively was God’s way of telling me that maybe I shouldn’t have children.  I’ve also been told that its blasphemous to tinker with nature and if my body can’t get pregnant on its own then I’m playing God by interfering. 

Now I’m a hugely scientific gal – love all things related to the life sciences because it makes sense to me.  Chemical reactions, physiology man I get it.  The advances medical technology and research have made are amazing to say the least.  I mean minimally they helped me conceive a child which is better than winning the lottery on any day.  I would never want to tell someone that hey, I know you really want to have a child but since your body doesn’t work right I think you should just chalk it up and move on with your life.  Who am I to judge what is best for others when it comes to building a family?

Well….I guess I am a sometimes bitter infertile who at times fiercely guards and defends my infertile self (yes, even though I had a child I am still infertile and no I probably won’t get over it 100% so just deal with my moments of self pity, ok?) and the f-ing myths that perpetuate false hope for those postponing parenthood either by choice or circumstance.  See it’s stories like those above that give uneducated women hope that their fertility has a long shelf-life because technology is so great now.  And by uneducated I mean not having even begun to delve into the plethora of potential problems associated with conception because really, how many of your parents ever had a talk with you about the potential that you may not get pregnant as easily as you hope someday?  All of our attention is focused on NOT getting pregnant until we’re married and established and in a nice home and blah, blah, blah.

I find this whole situation completely disgusting and selfish.  I find it irresponsible of medical practitioners to impregnate a woman of this age which only serves to perpetuate the myth that if you’ve the resources in terms of medical coverage or money, pregnancy at any age is possible.  The reality of the situation is these two tiny children are at risk of losing their mother before their 10th birthday and I wonder if when she’s gone they will love her more for giving them life or resent her for leaving them so young.

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  1. I hear you. It is because there’s money in it and the doctors like to do their stuff, and there are a lot of flakey and desperate people out there.
    I friend of mine had twins in vitro at age 53. It cost thousands of dollars to do this, and she is not rich. She said her husband, who is from a different culture, must have sons to bury him and tend his grave or otherwise his soul will never come to rest. When I expressed my opinion that that didn’t seem like much of a reason for her to bear children, especially at her age, she said, “Don’t you respect other cultures?” Well now what can I say now that the the kids are in the world? Nothing.
    She is one of those new age types who goes on and on about the wonders of nature and karma and all that sort of thing, but for the life of me I can’t see what’s natural about taking a young woman’s eggs and your husband’s sperm and making babies with them.


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