Happy First

July 18, 2007 at 7:37 am | Posted in Henry Stuff | 1 Comment

I’ve been thinking a lot about today and what it means to many people.  For most people I would imagine it is just a day.  For some people it is a day to say I love you, to say I want you, to say hello and for others it is a day to say good-bye.  Today is the day one year ago that Henry was welcomed into this world, half a world away from where he is now.  His birth mother held him and loved him and wished for him a Beautiful Life.  And her love for him was so strong that she let him go to have the things she could not provide for him.  But what she can and does provide for him is love that today for her must be bittersweet.

One of the reasons why we choose international adoption is for the closed, final aspect of the placement.  The children we surendered prior to referral so there was no chance a birth mother could change her mind.  We didn’t want the complication of the emotional weight of having a domestic birth mother involved in our lives. But now….now….what a difference a year can make.  I think of her and his birth father often as they were still a couple when we traveled to Korea to bring Henry home.  They had visited him together and brought him gifts to remember them by.  His birth mother called his Social Worker frequently to ensure he was growing well and being cared for.

We’ve sent three letters and sets of pictures to Korea that were placed into his file at the agency with the strong feeling that his birth parents have come back to retrieve them.  I long to connect these people with their son and ease their concern that their son is growing, happy and well loved.

We will always share this day with four other parents, his first parents and hold them close to our hearts as Henry has invaded all of our hearts.  And his foster parents who loved him more than we really knew and made sure he was safe until his journey to us.  He is the single thread that holds us together and will for a lifetime.

So here we are little man, one year old and growing like a weed.  Inquisitive as hell, easily knocked over by the slightest tickling touch, determined to explore the world around you.  Happy Birthday….


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  1. Happy Happy Birthday – you are such a lucky boy! We love you tons and can’t way to see the Hanbok!
    Aunt Amanda, Uncle Chad, Cole, and Reese.

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