Seriously…you must be joking

April 17, 2008 at 4:27 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 3 Comments

Are you sitting down?  Really, are you sitting down?  Today, a beautiful, Spring day in which the temperatures must be in the low 60’s and I’m outside with my kids enjoying the fresh air, sunshine and a new bubble machine.  I can hear the rumble of the mail truck coming and Sophie asks, “Are there any magazines for me?”  To which I respond, “I’m not sure.  I’ll have to check.”  And when the rumbling hasn’t stopped for a few minutes I wonder what the issue is.  I try to strategically creep out onto my driveway so I can still keep an eye on my kids and shout out a “Hello??”  And our mailman approaches from our front porch.  I hear myself saying, “Please don’t tell me that is from Immigration.”  He says, “Sorry…”  I say “I don’t want to sign for it.”  He says, “Yeah, you know how the government works.”  I say, “YEAH!!!  Oops…sorry.”  He says, “Don’t worry about it.  I work for the fools.”

Yes.  The lousy bastards at Immigration SENT MY APPLICATION BACK AGAIN.  Why?  Because the form wasn’t signed.  You know what?  It was fucking signed.  By me. NOT BY MY 21 MONTH OLD SON.  READ THE FORM ASSHOLES.  There is a section that denotes if you are filling out the application on behalf of someone else.   Yeah because I know my son is bright but shit, at 21 months he just can’t quite sign his name yet.

So now I’ll be $15 in the hole for postage for THREE attempts at someone who has an education higher than, gee I don’t know.  Kindergarten?  Because I’m pretty sure that both my neice and nephew could read this form better than the flunkies at USCIS in Chicago possibly can.

 by the by…wordpress has changed their dashboard and my spell check isn’t working. So in the event there are spelling errors, please cut me some slack and disregard.

Good help is hard to find

April 9, 2008 at 2:47 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 4 Comments

So allegedly the final step of our adoption is to apply for a Certificate of Citizenship for  Henry.  This will declare him a naturalized citizen of the United States and we can get his status with Social Security changed to naturalized citizen and then all the i’s will be dotted and the t’s will be crossed.  I completed the form, mailed the check and sent it off to USCIS last week.  The trickiest part was getting Henry to pose for passport sized pictures at Walgreens.  Not.  An.  Easy.  Feat.  At.  All.

Guess what I got back in the mail today?  Our application.  Why?  (Mom, you can skim over the next couple of words)  Because the motherfucker at USCIS didn’t take a second to actually READ our application which indicates we are applying on behalf of our ADOPTED child in which case the fee is $40 LESS than that for a biological child.  Apparently the dumbass at USCIS thinks Henry is our biological child thus they are requesting we submit the correct payment with our application.

So hey,  clerk ATB or AHB or whatever the hell your chicken-scratching penmanship initials are on the lovely form letter attached to the fee schedule in which you highlighted fees for biological and adopted children, WE PAID THE RIGHT FEE SO GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS, READ AND PROCESS OUR APPLICATION.

The Final Frontier…sort of

December 1, 2007 at 4:52 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 2 Comments

We received Henry’s Illinois birth certificate in the mail today.  I guess you could say he is completely, officially our son today.  In a journey that spanned just about two years.  We’ve come a long way.

Fini…well, sort of

August 20, 2007 at 2:38 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 1 Comment

We received a call from our adoption attorney today to let us know that our adoption of Henry has been finalized in the court system.  That means officially we are a family.  And although it is part of the end of a long process it is also the beginning of another paper chase to round out all the documents we need to declare Henry a US citizen.  This includes his birth certificate, a social security number and a certificate of citizenship.  Until this is completed he is considered a resident alien.  We’re not sure how long it will take us to really be done with all the paperwork necessary to declare Henry a US citizen but hopefully it will be before he starts school (just a joke indicative of the slow, slow, slow process of governmental paper pushers).

The Real Fab Four

June 9, 2007 at 8:35 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 1 Comment

Yesterday we went to a Korean Cultural Picnic sponsored by the Lions Club in a suburb of Chicago.  It is the first time all four boys have been together since Henry came home….actually it was the first time we’ve seen any of the boys since Henry came home.  Anyway here they are at the first of hopefully many get togethers.  From left to right we have Alex, Grant, Luke and Henry. 

Getting Served

March 24, 2007 at 7:15 am | Posted in Adoption Updates | 3 Comments

Yesterday was another milestone for us in our adoption process…we appeared in court to get an interim order of custody for Henry.  Because we cannot finalize our adoption for 6 months we are technically considered his foster parents.  As part of the finalization process we had to appear in front of a judge who quickly reviewed our petition to formally adopt Henry.  We were sworn in, asked some very basic questions and the judge approved our request.  The paperwork will be processed giving us sole and complete custody which, barring any problems,  should be completed mid-August.

Henry as the named minor in the court action has to be served legal papers which really means the Sheriff has to touch the paper to his skin and he is considered “served.”  Here is the pic (our attny took the picture for us and unfortunately she was moving around a bit…hence the blurry shot):

If you can tell Sophie is very busy checking out the plastic badge the Sheriff gave her and wondering what duties she is now empowered with.

In the end we spent more time driving in the car and looking for parking than we did in front of the judge and Sheriff.  But it was fun to watch Sophie check out all the city sites and put one more step behind us in the process of completing our family.  It was an emotional day for all of us…too bad we couldn’t all sack out in the car on the way home:


February 22, 2007 at 9:36 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 6 Comments


Yeah, I know I am.  Honestly I tell you this two child thing is much harder than I ever anticipated.  Bean is SUCH a trooper…I can’t even put into words how patient, kind and understanding she has been since we got home.  Boy King is adjusting well.  He got his days and nights turned around pretty quickly and he actually is sleeping 12 hours at night.  Nice…at least I am rested.

My chief complaint is his puking.  Lots of it.  After every meal, every day.  So much so that I do a load of his laundry every night right after I put him to bed.  He was switched to soy formula while still in Korea due to his “condition”.  I can’t imagine his puking being worse than it is now back when he was on a dairy based formula.  I’m allowing it to keep me in the house because I’m so paranoid that I’m going to have to deal with the puke.  So tomorrow we’re trying a hypoallergenic formula to see if we can at least decrease the frequency of the puking.  I’m sure it’s just wishful thinking but I’m hoping like hell that it makes some difference….in a positive direction.

The big loser in this scenario is Bean.  She seems to be holding it together pretty well but there are moments that she looks at me like, “Um, yeah. So far this little brother thing kinda sucks.  He takes up all your time.  He is loud.  He drools.  He frows up a lot.  And we never go anywhere anymore.”  I owe her big time.

I owe her big time.

Note: that is not a picture of my Henry (obviously) but just a cute yawn picture I found on the web

We are Family

February 10, 2007 at 10:26 am | Posted in Adoption Updates | 3 Comments

Getting there on sleep….although it’s difficult to tell from Ed’s eyes in this picture.  Hence why there is no picture of me with the kids.  And in all fairness this was taken on Thursday evening when we got home.  We’re actually looking a bit better than this.

Safe and Sound

February 9, 2007 at 8:17 am | Posted in Adoption Updates | 6 Comments

Feet are on the ground and our heads are in a fog.  Trying to get caught up on sleep so please forgive me if it takes a couple of days to post.

Boy King did great on the flights home.  On our 10 hour flight from Tokyo to Chicago he slept for 7 hours.  Straight.  Amazing.  Well now we’re paying for it.  He slept from 8 pm to 12:30am then from 1:15 am to 2:30 am and didn’t go back down until 6 am.  Now the sleep deprivation training starts.  Well, maybe tomorrow.  As for now we’re (Ed and I) sleeping in shifts to get caught up.  Guess who’s on duty now?

On the road again

February 7, 2007 at 6:36 pm | Posted in Adoption Updates | 3 Comments

Ok between the sobs of watching a farewell ceremony just now I thought I’d post a good-bye from Seoul.  We have an hour before we have to have our stuff ready to go and our leave time is 30 min after that.  It’s going to be a long trip home…but we’re anxious to get there.  I miss my Bean horribly…and can’t wait to introduce her to her baby brother.

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